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Ideas about diffusing tense situations

Listening to your intuition

Usually after a (tense) event, you remember hearing that little voice in head with good advice.

In the last few days, I heard the little voice and said, “nah, that can’t be possible.”  And then the slow downward slide happens, usually in slo-mo.  Listening to the little voice in the back of your head is the way to go.

Usually I am distracted with something and feeling sort of lazy.  I am happy in the spot I am in and don’t want to move or can’t think of a good reason move.

Anyways, for me, the situation can take a turn for the worse (nothing really that bad happens) when I let other folks determine the course of events.  The tense events usually occurs when someone with a negative outlook encounters a situation that they can’t deal with in a positive way.

If you are sitting across the room from them, or happen to be in a conversation, you may notice certain things about their attitude that are cues that they could have serious reactions if they encounter certain situations.

The two main situations that seem to occur is someone will have issues with anger management/aggression or they will seek to capitalize on a situation where they think they can gain something.   To a certain extent, the folks that I have encountered seem to have a bit of both.

People with anger management issues come in all shapes and sizes.  Usually I sense a certain uncomfortable feeling, like I am being pushed by someone, even if they are across the room.  My mind usually tries to rationalize the feeling, saying things like, “I must be mistaken.  No one would want to do that.  It would be so much easier to do something other than what they are doing.”  Well, sometimes it turns out they are actually seeking out negative energy.

On the street

One fairly common example, if you are living in the city, is to have interactions with homeless people.

There is nothing inherently wrong with not having a house.  But sometimes the reason someone in the USA is completely broke and on the streets is the result of many (unfortunately) poor decisions.

This is not always the case.

Some folks truly have had a string of bad luck.  But some folks have decided to take drugs, to not seek help for their addiction, mental health, etc…  It’s not so cut and dry and I am by no means an expert on the situation.  But in any case, I have definitely run into folks who are aggressive and mean.

Please understand that I’m trying to wish the best for everyone and certainly best wishes for anyone facing a challenge such as addiction and/or homelessness!

It is a weird sort of entitlement that some feel because if you are in a ‘better situation’ than them, then you should do what they want.  Usually to give them money.  No one has ever asked me for advice about getting a job.  They usually just want money.  I can understand food (and clothing if it is cold).  But money can be sketchy and addiction-related.

Anyways, my point (in general) is that walking around in the city, you may encounter someone who will try to enter into your happy world and try to pass on the misery.

Why not pass on some of the love instead?

Why do (some) people choose to pass on misery instead of love?  Some people may be mean spirited and purposely try to make things rough for you.  Some people may just be in a bad place and not realize that they are sending out bad vibes.

Starting the day on the good foot

It’s possible that positive energy attracts positive energy.

So I try to do a lot of positive things early in the day to start the day well.  If I am feeling good and relaxed, I can usually avoid or improve tense situations.   Not to say that this is always the case but I feel like it helps.  Some things to do in the morning: yoga, eat good food, play music, get some fresh air, etcetera.

From Spring 2009.

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